As driven young women trying to create our ideal lives, we tend to overstretch ourselves on a daily basis. We put way too much on our plates because we think we can handle it, and then nothing ever ends up producing the results we desire. And it’s frustrating…because our intentions are good, yet we can only physically do so much. There are just 24 hours in a day, and so it’s extremely important to make them count. Although it may seem damn near impossible to get something done when you’re being pulled in a million different directions, if you set yourself up for success, a positive outcome is actually very achievable. Want to know how to truly tackle your goals head on and continue to do so for years to come? Start using these techniques, commit to practicing them every day, and see instant results.
February 26 - March 4 is Eating Disorder Awareness Week, which forces me to reflect on a very difficult time in my life. From the time I was thirteen-years-old, and all throughout my teenage years, I struggled with an eating disorder called anorexia nervosa, an emotional disorder characterized by an obsessive desire to lose weight by refusing to eat.
Eating disorders are not something that people are born with, and they are not something that people bring upon themselves intentionally. Rather, eating disorders form because of the ideas planted in young women and men’s minds about weight and appearance from media, family, and friends (usually at a young age). Every time someone makes a comment about weight that makes us feel insecure, and every time we see hyper-thin women on TV or in a magazine, we judge ourselves harshly. A seed is planted. A very specific thought process is formed that in order to be successful in life, you must be beautiful. And in order to be beautiful, you must be thin.
I’m about to do something I never thought I’d publicly do…and that is share relationship advice. You see, I used to be really terrible at relationships. Like, reeeeeally terrible. I won’t go into detail, but let’s just say that after many years I’ve finally (thank god) come to realize what a healthy relationship looks and feels like.
Achieving a healthy relationship shouldn’t be a constant battle, and it should never feel like you’re trying to win a game or solve a mystery when it comes to your partner. It should be simple, easy, and fun. I’ve seen one too many friends get dragged down by shitty relationships, and it always shocks me how far they will go down the rabbit hole before figuring out they deserve better. (I’ll also admit I’ve had a bit of personal experience with this as well)
Shitty relationships are shitty for a lot of reasons, but mostly because they cause someone’s happiness to become dependent on their partner.
One year ago, Albert and I moved into our very first home outside of downtown Charleston, SC where we both attended college. It was a major life event for me, as this home signified something much bigger than simply moving in with my boyfriend...it was the final piece in establishing a new life in a new city. It meant that everything I had sought out to accomplish by leaving West Virginia had all fallen into place. It meant I had found somewhere that made me happy enough to plant roots and settle down. I won't lie, sometimes I shed a little happy tear when I pull into my driveway because I can't believe I get to live in this beautiful home with this wonderful man in this amazing city. Okay, I promise the sappy part is over :) Let's get on to the tour!
Most of you know me as the 'voice' of Tori Talks...a writer and coffee addict navigating through adulthood who loves to dish out advice to you lovely readers along the way! What you may not know is that my day job is in luxury real estate, and that my interior design obsession is fierce. I spend my days marketing gorgeous, high-end homes...so naturally that makes me even more obsessed with how I choose to decorate my own.
And, while I can pretend to live a lavish life at work, my bank account begs to differ the minute I walk out the door. That's why I've had to get super savvy about what to buy and where to spend when finding the perfect pieces for my home!
It's not extravagant by any means, nor is it something that you'd see featured on mydomaine, but it's mine...and to me, that makes it more perfect than any million dollar home along The Battery or celebrity penthouse.
I hope you enjoy the tour :)
As young adults, we constantly run ourselves ragged trying to take over the world, achieve our dreams, and crush all of the goals we set. It’s truly amazing that we are so driven and determined, yet it can also be pretty exhausting. I’m going to be 100% honest and say that this is the first time I’ve been able to sit down and write in two weeks due to this type of dilemma. Yikes! If you guys didn’t know, that’s a blogger/writer’s worst nightmare. Two weeks without content? What if my readers don’t like me and aren’t interested in what I have to say anymore? That’s what we all think. I’m not too worried though, because if I wasn’t out there living life, making mistakes, and figuring my own shit out…then I wouldn’t have anything worthy to write about for you all, now would I? :)
On New Years Day I began 2017 the same way I did 2016: with a kick ass yoga class at Charleston Power Yoga, of course. I’m telling you, nothing will make you feel like you can take on the world more than a sweaty workout with those fabulous ladies.
And, during that class, the instructor said something really inspiring that I’d like to share with you all. Rather than setting a resolution for 2017 (which we all know I’m not a huge fan of), she talked about setting an intention: a simple word that embodies what you want to cultivate throughout your entire year. What a great idea! I immediately started thinking about what I truly wanted to manifest in 2017, and decided on the word excitement.
Christmastime is officially over, and now everyone is starting to get giddy about celebrating New Years! I’ve always been a big fan of this holiday, because it forces me to reflect on another year passed, including everything that I’m proud of and everything that I may not be so proud of. To me, it’s another chapter in my book of life, and I think it’s so important to celebrate the closing of each chapter as well as the start of a new one. Plus, who doesn’t love a holiday that promotes dressing up and drinking champagne? No one, that’s who.
I can’t believe 2016 is almost over. What a strange year it’s been. Does anyone else feel that way? This will definitely be one for the books for me. I don’t think I’ve ever been so terribly unhappy, filled with joy, downright angry, overly elated, scared shitless, and unbelievably excited…all on such extreme, fluctuating levels over the course of twelve months.
Does daylight savings continue to throw you off for months after? Because it does for me…ESPECIALLY on days when the weather is particularly dreary. Gray skies are needed every once in awhile, I know, but it 100% takes a toll on my daily energy and leaves me feeling lethargic. Anyone else?
Now, I always want to be living up to my full potential, so I’ve come up with a few life hacks to trick my body back into becoming its upbeat, playful self during this time of year! Don’t let winter months drag you down. This is the season we need self-care the most, friends. Try some of these out - it's time to take back your energy!
Hi beauties! I'm Tori: a 23-year-old writer, reader, and coffee drinker here to inspire you to become the most authentic and empowered version of yourself. Together we'll transform.
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