This generation is consumed with the idea of following our passion, and is convinced that if we are not doing something that makes us 100% happy, every second of every day, then we are failing miserably at life.
I’m here to tell you that is not the case.
I know, because I lived it. I was miserable in my first job (which was actually a really great gig) because I wasn’t doing what made me happy every day and felt like I could be making money doing yoga or freelance writing or something I loved. And I eventually walked away from that job because I had truly convinced myself that I could make it teaching yoga and being an entrepreneur.
To say it ended badly would be an epic understatement.
And it ended badly for a lot of reasons, but one reason really worth mentioning is because I immediately started trying to “work to earn” rather than “work to learn.”
Let me explain…
Working to learn is the time you spend studying, reading, or taking online courses on what it takes to succeed in the business you want to be in. This means you take the time necessary to develop the skills and habits of a highly successful person, craft your own business plan (after studying many others), and figuring out exactly what you need to do to make it.
Working to earn is when you dive right in to wanting to make as much money as possible to support yourself (because you’ve essentially cut off all other sources of income) in order to not hit rock bottom and fail. It’s stressful because you did not plan ahead or come up with a set strategy to succeed. And 9 times out of 10 is does not work out in your favor.
Sound familiar? If it does, that’s okay. You’ll never succeed if you don’t plan to fail at least a few times.
And this is why it’s SO important to keep your day job that supports you while you work on your side hustle/project/passion…whatever you want to call it…until it eventually becomes so successful that you must take it on full time. This way, you are gaining additional income doing something that you love, and you won’t stress out when your business ebbs and flows for awhile until it becomes a steady stream of revenue.
You’ll (ideally) be making double the income with your day job and your side hustle, and your side hustle WILL NEVER feel like work because IT’S YOUR PASSION! Pretty sweet, right?
And THEN it makes the transition seamless if and when you ultimately decide your side hustle is making you enough income to fully support yourself. All that stress of not being successful or making it in the business? It disappears…BECAUSE YOU’VE ALREADY MADE IT! :)
Now, this is not me crushing your dreams or saying that you may not immediately make it following your passion. You might get very lucky. However, the majority of us will fail over and over again until we ultimately succeed in whatever it is we truly want to do. It’s called failing forward, because it’s getting us closer to our goal…and it’s TOTALLY NORMAL! It takes time to learn the ins and outs of entrepreneurship, and you shouldn’t get discouraged when you’re not exactly where you want to be ASAP.
We will never be doing something that we love every second of every day, even in our side hustle, and that’s life! I mean, I spent 12 hours the other day learning code so that I could make my blog look exactly the way I wanted it to. Do you think that was fun? Um, no. Not at all. But it was necessary to get me one step closer to my end goal.
So please do not feel bad about taking a job that you’re not obsessed with out of college because you know your passion is really _________. You will get there! And it will be SO much easier to do if you have a steady income to help fuel that side project, because it’s likely that your side project will not make money right off the bat.
We are a generation of extreme goal diggers, passion pursuers, and dream chasers. And it’s freaking awesome. Truly. I am constantly inspired by my fellow millennials and the things they’re up to. AND, it can also be discouraging when you see someone else succeeding while you sit there struggling to make your passion a full-time gig. The secret? That person probably developed a business plan and studied other people in their field :)
I am currently 23-years-old, working a full-time job in luxury real estate as a Sales & PR Coordinator while I work on my lifestyle blog and teach yoga classes on the side. Writing and yoga is my passion, but I love my job, the people, and the stability it provides me while I attempt to make my passions another stream of income.
We will all get where we’re meant to be if we work hard enough and take the time to work to learn before we work to earn.
So stop stressing out, take a deep breath, and as always….
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