Am I the only one who gets unbelievably overwhelmed with a task if I do not see the finish line? Beginning a project or venture that I have no idea when I might be able to finish sends me into a frenzy of anxiety. I honestly can’t even commit to a television series if it has too many seasons because I know I won’t be able to rest until I figure out how it ends. Anyone? Anyone? No, just me?
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I may be an extreme case of this, but we live in such an age of instant gratification. As young adults we are so goal-driven and determined, but we are hesitant to put in effort if we can’t see immediate results. Why is that? Why are we so hell-bent on immediately getting everything we want rather than enjoying the process? At one point this year I distinctly remember saying to my dad (on a really bad day), “I know everything will be okay and I’ll find the perfect job and be able to financially support myself, but I really wish I could fast forward to that point because this process is miserable.”
I am clearly not channeling my zen, yogic ways when it comes to adapting to adulthood.
A recent article came out saying that millennials can expect to go through up to 15 jobs in our lifetimes, and that we will likely change jobs every four or so years. So, it’s completely normal to not know exactly what we’re doing or have a set plan, yet as twenty-somethings we desperately seek the answer to the dreaded question, “What are you going to do with your life?”
UGH. WE DON’T KNOW! Stop asking.
As someone who is in between jobs and has been interviewing for a wide variety of positions, I’ve been faced with this question a lot lately. And for a long time I was dead set on having a certain type of position at a certain type of company because I thought that’s what I was supposed to do in order to look good to others, and because I thought it would make me reach my “end goal” quicker. And throughout this whole interview process with so many of those places, I’ve realized that those might not be the jobs that would make me happiest at all. In fact, I can use my skills at other types of companies that may even make me happier. But…gasp…what would people think?! And what if it’s the wrong path and I don’t reach my end goal in x amount of years?!
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We need to chill. the. hell. out. Myself included :)
Now, rather than taking a job because of the status I think it gives me, I want to take a job based on how much I’ll be able to grow and learn while doing things that I enjoy. I love picking up new skills, and I want an environment that’s going to challenge me in all the right ways. And it’s okay if that means I’m not working at a top company making bank right away. We need to learn to enjoy the process rather than desperately searching for ways to reach the top ASAP.
Truth be told, these past couple of months I’ve spent job searching have been really eye-opening. I’ve discovered so much about what I thought I wanted versus what I actually want. And I’m acting on it. I’ll probably make some major decisions based on those discoveries. It may not end up exactly the way I imagine, and that’s okay. A wonderful mentor of mine recently told me: Lean into what makes you curious and excites you.
Everything else will follow. It’s all part of a bigger plan.
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