Five-year plans can seem a bit daunting to some. It's often hard to think about all of the things we hope to accomplish in our near future, and then figure out exactly how to get there. I know that, for me, it's particularly difficult to work towards achieving a goal if I can't visibly see the steps I need to take to reach it. And, of course, I love being able to check off those steps along the way ;) So, for the purpose of keeping your sanity while crushing your goals, I created a roadmap to help you along the way! This roadmap is broken down into 6-month segments, and assumes that one would like to reach 3 goals every 6 months. Under each goal, you write 3 action steps you must take in order to reach that goal. **You can obviously adapt the model to suit your specific needs as well if you have more goals you want to reach per 6 months or feel that you need more action steps per goal.**
Here's an easy example:
Today I had a sweet friend reach out to me and ask for advice. She said, “I’m just wondering how you do it. You have a successful blog, and so many other business ventures. I’m super envious and want to live a life like you are, but I’m so stuck.” And it really got me thinking about how we portray ourselves online and what people believe to be true versus what is actually true. I strive to keep everything 100% authentic both on my blog and social media channels, so it continues to shock me when people believe I “have it all together” or am living some glamorous life. Because that is SO not the case at all. In fact, that’s why I created this blog - to share my lessons learned through all of my many failures (past, present, and future)!
It’s true that my blog gets great readership. But in reality, it hardly makes me any money. Don’t get me wrong - I get tons of cool perks and gigs from people knowing me as “Tori Talks,” which is super cool and amazing, but I mostly blog because I love it and because I like to think my experiences help you all on some level or another. And I have my yoga business and my real estate business, both of which are great, yet there are only so many yoga classes you can teach a week…and I also haven't sold a house through my real estate company, Yogi hOMes, yet. I actually just got my first client! So it's all a growing process. I know that it'll take time to grow my businesses and so I work hard to do that every day. But I also work for a catering company and freelance write to make ends meet right now since my real estate company hasn't taken off quite yet. I am struggling just as much (if not more than) all of you :) And I’m okay with that because I’m doing what I love and I know the future is bright for me because I’m working hard to make it so.
So this week on Tori Talks…I’m sharing some words of wisdom from one struggling 20-something to another. Keep on keepin’ on, beauties. WE got this.
Happy holidays, beauties! I can't believe Christmas is just a few short weeks away - it feels like 2017 has flown by. I've gotten so many requests for my personal reading list/book recommendations, so I thought I'd have a little fun with it and create a bookworm's holiday gift guide. Below are FORTY book recommendations for the various types of people in your life, and maybe some for yourself too! ;) You can click on the links below each section to purchase. Happy shopping!
1. Originals // 2. Rich20Something // 3. How to Style Your Brand // 4. You Are a Badass at Making Money // 5. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck // 6. Big Magic // 7. The 12 Week Year // 8. Brand Brilliance
Last week I had a panic attack while sitting in my car before yoga. I’d like to say this was the first time that’s happened, but I would be lying. In fact, it’s happened more times than I care to admit.
I’ve been “losing my shit” for as long as I can remember. These panic attacks started happening in high school, and have stayed with me ever since. No amount of modern anxiety medicine or yoga sessions has sent them packing, unfortunately. And that’s okay. I used to get so angry at them, pouting and sulking at the fact that I couldn’t seem to control my emotions enough to “pull it together” or “get a grip.” Now, I welcome them with open arms, because it’s a clear f*cking sign that something’s not aligning correctly with my mind and my body, and that it needs to be sorted out. Now, I see my panic attacks as an energy force that helps rewire my body back to its balanced state.
I realize this is a strange way to look at something as serious as having a panic attack. And I’m not trying to downplay these attacks, at all. Because boy, they can be brutal. But now rather than resisting or reacting to them when they arise, I choose to accept them for what they are. And I do this because I truly believe that sometimes you need to “lose your shit” or have a huge meltdown, letting yourself feel all of the things you’re feeling, in order to break through that glass ceiling that’s holding you back and level-up your life.
Because…sometimes, you need to fall apart in order to fall together.
Oh boy. This one’s a biggie. Moving in with your significant other is the first major hurdle of any long-term relationship. And it’s a HUGE test to see whether or not they’re the real deal. Now, I’m definitely not old-fashioned when it comes to stuff like this (or um, at all). I’m more of a ‘test it before you buy it’ sort of gal, ya know? To me, it’s so important to live with your significant other before you choose to commit even further to the relationship. I would personally never marry someone I hadn’t lived with for AT LEAST 6 months. Not only does it give you an idea of what they’re like on a SUPER personal level, but you also get to know their real character…personality traits…quirks…habits….etc. You know the saying, ‘the true test of someone’s character is what they do when no one is watching’? Well, it’s true. It’d be pretty damn hard to hide your true self 24/7…unless you’re a total sociopath. The good, bad, and extra ugly is bound to be released at some point. And it’s crucial to know who your partner is, both inside and out, if you’re going to choose to spend the rest of your life with them.
If you’re anything like me, then you can’t half-ass or somewhat commit to anything. You’re either ALL in or ALL out - there’s no in between. This sort of mindset has worked wonders for me in the past, as I’m always deemed the ‘most dedicated’ to anything and everything I choose to be a part of. Seriously, I’ve got trophies to prove it. Yet, this mindset has also come back to bite me in the ass at times…because I spread myself waaaaay too thin trying to do it all, end up having weekly panic attacks about it, and inevitably have to bail on someone or something to keep my sanity intact. What can I say? I’m a people pleaser through and through. It’s one of my best and worst traits, and I know I’m not the only one.
Being both a yoga teacher and a yoga student is so rewarding. There is really nothing better than helping students find the balance within their bodies and their lives to reach new heights. It's also amazing applying those tools in my own practice to see those shifts happen in my life as well.
Over the past year and a half of teaching, I've gotten quite selective of the products I use and recommend to my fellow teachers, students, and peers. I also get asked quite a bit about the products I choose, so I thought I'd do a little 'yoga roundup' of my favorite items! You can click on the pictures for more info!
Quitting a job is one of the scariest things you’ll ever do, especially if it’s a great gig and you like your boss. However, if bigger and better things are calling your name…it’s so important to lean in to those gut feelings and say farewell to an old opportunity to make room for an even more exciting one. So, when you waltz in to have that big convo with your boss, be sure to remember the following!
As young professionals, we always want to look our best when attending job interviews, internships, and at work in general. Yet…many of those jobs are NOT supplying us with the financials we need to have that fabulous work wardrobe. $100 for a pair of black dress pants?! Um, no thank you.
Luckily, I’ve managed to scout out some hidden gems when it comes to professional attire. You know the saying “fake it till you make it”? Well, the same applies to purchasing nice, adult(ish) clothing. We may not be able to afford those $100 slacks quite yet, but we sure can trick you into thinking we’re the chicest of the chic with our $20 Target finds and that designer top we snagged on sale at Nordstrom Rack.
The following 8 stores are my favorite places to shop for my work attire! Each of them are either incredibly affordable OR offer amazing deals on a pretty consistent basis. Check them out :) You can click on the name of each store to start shopping online now, too!
Hi beauties! I'm Tori: a 24-year-old writer, reader, and coffee drinker here to inspire you to become the most authentic and empowered version of yourself. Together we'll transform.
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